Dear Fence Sitter

When Your Partner is Sure They Don't Want Kids (And You're Not)

Answering a reader question. Should I really decide if I want to have kids if it also means getting divorced?

Jul 8 •

Amanda E. White

When Getting Married Depends on You Wanting Kids

A reader asks... My partner won't marry me until we decide on kids, but I wanted someone who would choose me no matter what. How do I reconcile this?

Jun 18 •

Amanda E. White

We're on Opposite Sides of the Fence! How Can We Talk About This?

Answering a reader question about how to bridge the gap and prompts I recommend

May 8 •

Amanda E. White

Every Choice Holds Grief: Navigating the Parenthood Decision

Answering a reader question

Jan 16 •

Amanda E. White

Should You Face Your Fear of Having Kids?

How to decide if you actually want kids when fear and other barriers are holding you back

Oct 24, 2024 •

Amanda E. White

Dear Amanda, Does Hating Kids Mean I Shouldn't Have One?

Loving kids and having them are two different things

Aug 4, 2024 •

Amanda E. White

Dear Amanda, How Does Having a Child Change Your Romantic Relationship?

The good and the bad news...

Jun 26, 2024 •

Amanda E. White

Dear Amanda, My Husband Wants Kids, I'm on the Fence...

An important dilemma

May 15, 2024 •

Amanda E. White

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