Hi I’m Amanda

I am a therapist, you may know me online as Therapyforwomen on instagram. I am here to help you decide whether you want to have children, how many and explore parenting from the perspective of someone who was not sure whether she wanted to have children for a long time.

So often whether to have a child or not is filled with extreme takes. People are pro parent or against it. “If you doubt having a child at all YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE KIDS!” Or “How selfish are you to consider not having kids!” People are so heated about this topic. And one of those reasons I think is that we can try to justify our own choices. This is why I started this substack.. I want to talk about parenthood from a realistic lens and provide you with insights into how I help my clients make the hard choice of whether or not to have children.

This isn’t a regular mom blog… it’s a blog that is going to talk about parenthood from a realistic lens. I want to write about being on the other side of the fence (having a child) after I sat on the fence so long. Whether you have kids, aren’t sure or are exploring your own ambivalence about parenting, you are welcome here. We have a monthly support group where people on all sides can share and get support.

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As someone who was on the fence for many years, and is only choosing to have one, I try to be as neutral as I can but obviously I am biased as well. But what I do want to create here is a community of people who are questioners…. maybe you are either questioning having children, questioning how many they want, questioning getting married, questioning whether to adopt, or have made a decision but still grappling with how much this changed your life (aka the boat I am in).

About Me

I have a therapy practice “Therapy for Women Center” and I wrote the book “Not Drinking Tonight” and its corresponding workbook. I believe in realistic mental health content. The more I am on social media, the more frustrated I am by the extreme takes. And the more I am convinced it is detrimental to our mental

Thank you!

I am so grateful you are here and that I can share my work beyond an algorithm and also I can share in longer form. I value you being here so much. Paid subscribers will get 1-2 pieces of content each month… a written post or two and often a podcast episode.

My other work:

To learn more about my practice, Therapy for Women Center, find a therapist you connect with or more, check out our website here. We have therapists in 3 offices in the Philly area or virtually in 43 states and counting across the country! I am the cohost of the podcast Nuance Needed.

I am also the author of 2 books: “Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Living a Sober Life You Love” and its corresponding workbook by the same name. Check them out!