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Courtney's avatar

Um. Whoa. This is beautiful. I am a fence-sitter who is now pregnant, and this is exactly what I needed to read tonight. Thank you for this thoughtful post!

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Amanda E. White's avatar

Sending you so much love on this journey!

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Jess Bardenheier's avatar

“You don't need to be certain. You just need to know yourself well enough to make a choice you can live with”. Oof, yes, that part. So beautifully said as always. Loved reading this!

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Lorraine Schneider's avatar

Beautiful.

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Lindsay Scholz's avatar

I’ve never shed so many tears of gratitude for feeling seen while reading a piece on Substack before. Thank you for all of these beautiful words, and you articulated absolutely everything that I felt prior to bringing my daughter into the world. Motherhood has been such a gift 🤍

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Amanda E. White's avatar

thank you so much!

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Natalie Z. Toshkoff's avatar

Thank you for sharing!! Parenting does change you in ways you could never have anticipated.

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Amanda E. White's avatar

Thank you!

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Minna's avatar

Loved this, Amanda – so beautifully written! My fave: "You're going to change no matter what you choose. The question is which changes you want to experience, which story you want to live. Whether you choose to become a parent or not, you can build a beautiful life."

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Amanda E. White's avatar

Thank you Minna!

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Maria Sosa - Holisticallygrace's avatar

Wow. Wow. Wow. This was so beautiful to read, friend. As someone who on the child-free by choice path, I realize I never had that younger version of me that questioned my choice. She was like: “Cool, no kids for us. Done.” But as a person who questions everythinggggggg I can’t even imagine what it would be like to be a fence-sitter on this topic. Thank you for sharing your lovely words ❤️

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Amanda E. White's avatar

Thank you friend!!!!

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Mairead's avatar

Thank you for writing this 🫶🏼

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Clara Schw's avatar

Wow thank you so much, this resonates a lot!

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